This one is for you my friend, near of far always in my heart.
Imagine a situation where you need to vent out so bad and you’re by yourself and no one to talk to so you decide to call a friend. Amazingly he pick’s up the phone and your like OMG!!!! Thank you, thank you god! The thing with living in different time zones is that you have a limited time for communication with the folks back home. Whitch can be a bummer most days. But lucky for me, not on that particular day.
We all been there, right? That feeling of having someone that listens to you is priceless. A great friend is like a release button for a steamer kettle. I love that. Might have to throw in an apology for the possible red ear though.
A true friend is there for you as you are there for them.
There are acquaintances, there a friends and then there are good friends, they become family, well, even better than family. They are the ones that won’t let you out of the hook. The one’s that question you and who will always show up when the times get tough to stand by your side.
This literally might mean a phone call once a year, but the bond is there. Having a person in your life that you can have hours of verbal vomit with is simply awesome. A person you can grow with. And most importantly who gets your stupid sense of humour!
We all need someone to listen to us. Most days we don’t need advise, we just need to be heard.
“Wake me up when you’re finished, will you.”
Talking with a good friend feels like coming home.
I value a good conversation. Nothing compares to a conversation that can last for hours. And can intake variation of topics from serial killers to raising children that you don’t have to a childhood trauma you might not be over yet. Laughing to the same shit is crucial. And knowing the other one knows exactly what you mean.
Those kind of conversations where everything overflows but in a chaotic order and by the end of it you both got what you needed out of it. Those kind of conversations that heal us.
The beauty of having really good friends is that with different friends you can talk about different stuff.
“Food! Did you say?!”
With a good friend you never have the feeling of to trying to fit in. Because you are already in. That realization that you can actually rely on someone who does not judge but loves you as you are, it is truly priceless.
For me as a long term expat, realizing the fact that there is someone out there who knows me is very empowering. It’s also a relief some kind when you can just be yourself and you don’t have that feeling of having to establish relationship’s with new people all the time. And all I need is to feel loved. We all do.
This particular conversation with my friend helped me realize my frustrations. It inspired me to deal with my feelings of conforming and understand the constant shaping into a new environment more clearly. Sometimes change is good but not when you loose yourself.
After our conversation a lot of things fell into their right place. I realized once again some stuff. I felt like some things opened inside of me once again. And after a painful process I felt I could breathe again.
Life is ever changing. We are ever shifting.
So talk with your friends and always listen to them.